7 Signs You Are A Helicopter Mommy

 

1. You Solve Problems For Kids

You are probably a helicopter mommy if you are constantly following your child and trying to solve every problem for them, or worse if you are doing things to keep them from having any problems.

 

If they face a problem, you jump in to solve it for them. If they forget their homework and it’s bedtime, you do it for them because you can’t bear the teacher reprimanding your child.

 

2. You Never Let Them Play Alone Outdoors

There are numerous advantages to allowing children to play outside alone, including increased confidence, reduced stress, increased independence, and so on. Allow the length of your leash to gradually increase. Know your neighborhood’s rules, and depending on your children’s ages, you can gradually give them the freedom and confidence to play outside.

 

They should also be educated and warned about potential threats. If your children are old enough, you can provide them with a basic dumb mobile phone so that you can reach them.

 

3. You Are Always Giving Instructions

If you never allow your children to take risks, you are a helicopter mommy. You are constantly giving instructions such as “don’t run too fast,” “do your homework,” and so on. You are more afraid than the child of the potential consequences. For example when you want to involve your children in the kitchen, guide them, but let them do their own thing. Let them experiment a little, so they can learn on their own.

 

When you want to protect your child from failures and frustrations, you are overprotective. When they appear frustrated with even minor issues, you jump in with solutions. Life, in general, entails risks. As a result, it is critical that children learn to deal with problems and pain so that they can grow up to be resilient.

 

4. You Speak For Them

If you respond to questions posed to your tweens or teenagers by teachers or other adults, you may be a helicopter mommy. You may be answering them because you are concerned that their response will be inappropriate. However, you are stealing their voice by doing so. It may cause them to be unable to speak for themselves when they reach adulthood. And they may always rely on you or others to have difficult conversations or to avoid difficult/awkward situations entirely.

 

When they are not allowed to speak, they are not given the opportunity to be heard, which can lead to a variety of issues for the child in the future, including mental health issues such as anxiety and depression.

 

5. You Rush To Fix Their Emotions

You don’t let them deal with their own emotions when you’re a helicopter mommy. You rush to stop them from crying, as well as to solve their problems and “save” them from further emotional distress. The parents work hard to suppress their emotions and do whatever it takes to make their children happy.

 

As a result, the child never learns to cope with emotions or self-regulate as they grow. They may also have to deal with anxiety and depression later in life. They are not taught how to function as adults. They also do not cultivate healthy emotional intelligence.

 

6. You Choose For Them

Are you the one who always decides what clothes to buy your children, what books they should read, and which college courses they should take? Do you decide what extracurricular activities they should participate in and which college they should attend? Do you get too involved in the application procedures to ensure they don’t fail to get in?

 

 

These are manifestations of helicopter parenting. Naturally, we want the best for our children. But making mistakes and learning from them is part of growing up. Their mistakes can help shape their character, and they can learn to find their true purpose by experimenting and analyzing what works and what doesn’t. That is an important lesson for them to learn.

 

7. You Constantly Monitor What They Do

You may be a hovering mother if you constantly need to know where they are and what they are doing. You have this constant need to know what they are doing, so you constantly check the GPS on their phone and call or text them while they are in the college hostel.

 

Every hour of the day, helicopter mommies can be seen fixing what their children do. You frequently decide what they should and should not do because you are concerned that their choices will be inadequate.