How To Live With A Partner That You Do Not Love

Don’t. I recommend getting out of this scenario as soon as possible since the more you stay in it, the more it will eat you up. The most important thing is to love oneself. If he doesn't love you, then love yourself and leave this relationship. You are far more valuable than a loveless relationship.

 But of course, life doesn’t come easy. It is easier said than done. There are so many variables in the equation. It is not just you and your life, but the life of others around you that are going to affect by this decision. If you have children, their life could become hectic, but in long term, your kids will benefit from an honest life. However, you can try couples therapy to salvage the relationship.

How To Know If You Do Not Love Your Partner?

Before we dive deeper into this unfortunate topic, you make an uninformed decision about your life. A decision that could change your life in more than one way. So, here I have compiled a short list of signs to look for, to be sure if what you’re feeling is true or if this is just temporary and could be worked on.

You Tend Not To Initiate Conversations With Them

After all, there isn't much to talk about these days. You have no need or want to engage in his discourse. If you must be in the same room with them, you prefer that they do so quietly. It's a compromise rather than a companionable quiet. If they strike up a discussion with you, you're likely to stiffen up and become agitated or apprehensive about what's to come.

You Feel More Like Yourself When They Are Not Around

When your spouse isn't around and isn't likely to overhear or notice what you're doing or saying, you feel not just more at peace, but also more like the person you want to be. You have the freedom to be yourself. Part of you shuts down the moment they appear, and you become a quiet or guarded version of yourself. Your mood shifts dramatically, and the tension is evident.

The Thought Of Intimacy With Them Does Not Appeal To You

Maybe you recall when things were different and you couldn't keep your hands off each other, but now... the thought of closeness with them makes you cringe. True closeness is impossible since you don't feel a connection with them. Sex is simply sex. And you don't want that to happen with them. What was once intimate and delightful has become awkward and pointless.

Think About It Again

Don’t do anything hastily. People have stayed with their partners for over 20 years in many cases. It’s not uncommon. They have multiple children together. As you grow older, your relationship and dynamics change. You might want different things, have different needs, or whatever. There are many different stages of a relationship, and each relationship is different from the others.

What makes you believe that another relationship might be preferable? Or being by yourself? Your husband is neither cruel nor abusive, and your feelings may change again.

For example, there is a couple I know, she had been with him since she was 17, and now she is 34. They have three children together, but after her second kid, she didn’t feel any attraction or love for her partner. But they rode it out for the sake of the children. Now they are in a completely different phase, happy and loving again. Spending time together with the children. Vitally, two people might have their interests and projects. That doesn’t mean relationships should be affected. The relationship is based on affection and respect - important emotions after the initial buzz has gone.